Love Reconciled

Learning to Live Together -- In Love, Work and Play

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About Char and Shar

People thought it would never work.  Not all, but some.  Char (He) and Shar (She) had only known each other 48-hours when he proposed.  Watch the video of how Char and Shar met.

Opposites Attract
It appeared they had everything against them starting out.  Both were broke, working low income jobs and trying to start over.  Shar had just moved back to the states after living in Puerto Rico, and
Char was separated from his first wife of six-months.  Char and Shar met at church.  They were both from different races, ages, backgrounds, maturity-levels and had very different upbringings. 

Different Backgrounds
Char is from the South and Shar from the Northwest part of the United States.  Char was raised in a racist alcoholic home.  However, he had two hardworking parents that raised him in an upper middle-class suburban lifestyle with one younger brother.  Shar was raised in a Christian home in the inner-city with a stay at home mom and a self-employed dad with seven other siblings.  Char was a foster child that was adopted.  Shar came from a loving stable "Brady Brunch" type home.

Char loved rap and R&B music, preferred girls from the hood, and his household grew up cussing and fighting like sailors when they got mad.  Shar loved gospel, jazz, and Simon and Garkunkel.  She usually dated professional career type-guys and never heard a swear word in her household.  She never heard her parents argue or even disagree with each other, they truly loved each other and had a happy marriage.

Shar was well traveled and loved to travel the United States, as well as internationally.  She loved to attend concerts, plays, the opera, cultural events and socialize at gatherings with friends and family.  Char had traveled to about three states, was scared to drive on the highway, go downtown, concerts were too loud and hurt his ears, and he didn't know any of his relatives outside of his immediate family to socialize with.

Furthermore, Char liked it cold and Shar liked it hot.  Shar grew up eating organic farm to table food, and Char grew up eating fast food and was a steak and potato type of man.  Char mindset was "I'll work a j-o-b and the same one until I die," and "Shar's mindset was I'm working this job until I start my business and it takes off."  Char wakes up at 4:00 a.m. and ease into his day with prayer, devotions and exercise.  Shar wakes up around 9 a.m. or so, jumps out of bed with a sudden-jolt and dives into her day.  Char is always extra early and Shar is either right on time or 5-15 minutes late.  I think you get the point, they were then and are now like night and day.  They are about 75% different and 25% alike. 

Focus on Similarities
It's the 25% where they are similar that keeps their love and relationship solid.  
They are similar in their core values, morals, character traits, beliefs, goals, vision and commitment to their future together.  They are also on the same page when it comes to managing money, saving, investing, vacationing and having fun.  Furthermore, spiritually they are similar.  Their moto is "Love God more than anything and do right by everything."  In good, bad and challenging times, those words keep both of them grounded and focused on God, each other and their goals.

Happy Imperfect Marriage
Char and Shar got engaged 48-hours after meeting and married seven-months later.  They still have many differences, disagreements, opinions and things that annoy each other.  Through all of their challenges, like any other couple, they have managed to remain deeply in love with each other and enjoy each other's company.

They have worked together in business for over 20 years.  They live a debt free minimalist lifestyle.  Amazingly they have been debt free most of their married life and currently own two mortgage free homes.  They have one daughter that is 22 years old and have been empty nesters for over four years.

Love Reconciled is a YouTube Channel hosted by Char and Shar an interracial couple married over 27 years.  They share their journey of learning to live together in LOVE, WORK and PLAY.  They also share their debt free and minimalist lifestyle.  They share honest stories, testimonies and life experiences about the good, bad, victories and tribulations of their "happy imperfect" marriage throughout their journey.

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Partners thrive to find solutions and compromise to overcome challenges.


Why We Love Growing Older
How Char & Shar Met

Our Second Date
The 48-Hour Marriage Proposal
Other's Reaction to Proposal
How to Communicate


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