Are you married or in a relationship and are bored? Do you admire other seemingly happy couples and wonder why your marriage seem to suck?
All relationships have seasons.
Relationships go through ups and downs and different seasons. Circumstance or a situation can dictate the season of the relationship. Throughout the relationship journey there will be many different feelings and emotions, both good and bad, to describe how you “temporarily” feel, but boredom doesn’t have to be one of them.
Plan not to be bored.
In order to not be bored in your relationship, make a promise and plan to intentionally do something to not be bored. In other words, have a strategic plan to keep the relationship fun, exciting and fresh. With that type of assignment, you will never have a lackluster relationship.
An important step before implementing the plan is identifying the root problem. Talk with your partner to identify WHY you guys are bored. Be honest, straight-forward and without any bitterness or resentment.
Too much busyness and not enough togetherness can bring boredom. Also, lack of togetherness can make the relationship feel dead. No one gets married or in a relationship to feel bored and single. Finding enjoyment in simple things can work miracles in a relationship.
Play: Play cards, movies, concerts, board games, puzzles, tennis, basketball or videos together. Laugh, smile, joke, sing and tickle each other. Simple fun pleasures eliminate boredom.
Cook: Cooking together is fun and can be romantic. Have fun talking, reminiscing, laughing and working together as a team while cooking.
Health: Start taking walks during the morning, evening or on weekends together. Get to know your partner and who they are today. Chat. Find out who your partner is and get healthy together in the process.
Dream: Are you both headed in the same direction? Talk about your dreams and goals. Where is it that you want to go individually and as a couple? Write the vision down and talk about it together. Talk about ways you can fulfill your dreams as a team.
Travel: Connect, get refreshed and rejuvenated by traveling together, not separately. Go somewhere different and fun. Talk about your life, goals, interest, and remind each other why you fell in love. Travel together and discover a new place to strengthen your bond, intimacy and love.
Any long-term relationship can get a little stale. Now you have a strategy in place to get pass boredom in marriage, so get started doing it.
Question: Do you feel that people shouldn't get bored in relationships, and do you believe boredom means the relationship is doomed?
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